Normally, I would not expect anything pro-marriage to come out of The Atlantic, but here it is:
Our report suggests, in contrast, that in today's marriages both
wives and husbands benefit when they embrace an ethic of marital
generosity that puts the welfare of their spouse first. That is, both
are happier in their marriages when they make a regular effort to serve
their spouse in small ways -- from making them a cup of coffee, to
giving them a back rub after a long day, to going out of their way to be
affectionate or forgiving. So the lesson here is not for wives now to
throw off an other-centered ethic as a relic of an ancient era, but
rather for contemporary husbands to embrace this ethic for themselves
and their families.
Today, a growing proportion of young adults in the United States
worry that having both a good marriage and a happy family life with
children is unattainable. And their worries are mirrored in much of the
commentary, television shows, and movies that dwell on relationships and
family life in America.
But we have good news for these young people. By embracing some new
values -- like date nights, shared housework, and an ethic of marital
generosity -- and some old values -- like commitment, thrift, and a
shared faith -- it appears that today's parents can dramatically
increase their odds of forging a stable and happy marriage. This means
that couples need not despair after the arrival of a baby. If one-third
of today's married parents can successfully combine marriage and
parenthood, surely many more can flourish when baby makes three.
12/13/2011
Way to go
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